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The Thick Of Thin Things ~ My Love/Hate Relationship With Technology!

IMG_0194These past few days I have been contemplating my love/hate relationship with technology. It seems to have me, more often than not, by the neck, holding my life for ransom. One day, one hour, one minute at a time I am trading out the other things I could be doing for time on the computer. There is this invisible thread that pulls me to check out my Facebook notifications, check my email, maybe do a little research for a post to my Visit My British Isles page or my Life Story Writing page. Not bad I think to myself. Yet it seems as if there is some kind of time distortion going on when I engage in technological pursuits.

My list of things to do, people to see, seems to grow, not diminish. My writing does lies abandoned. My multiple reading books sit waiting for me. Surely with a husband and daughter at work I have no excuse not to carve out one hour of writing time and one hour of reading time?

I have in times past closed the computer and walked away for a day or a week. It feels somehow freeing. Its like those other addictions, sometimes easier to go cold turkey than to piece meal my way along.

For good or for no good at all, my life is inextricably linked to technology. I love the instant connections. I hate the time consumption. I love the wealth of knowledge at my fingertips. I hate that I drown it endless web pages. I love the friendship and kinship I find. I hate how frazzled I feel trying to not ‘miss’ anything. I love that my words can be heard around the world. I hate that I feel dependent on technology for this. I love the opportunities it presents. I hate how overwhelmed I feel trying to figure things out and keep up! And so the list goes on.

This struggle is playing itself out in my mind in one more arena right now: whether I should get a smart phone, or not. I went to a class last week, where the instructor said ‘If you are using your phone as a phone and entertainment device only then you are using it as a dumb phone!’ He pointed out that in the future when we want to go to the store we will dictate our list to the phone and the phone will use a GPS to take us efficiently through the aisles to pick up our products. At the checkout it will price match. And of course we will pay with our phone. He said we do nothing riskier than carry a wallet full of cards around.

Next month Apple comes out with a Health Kit that will monitor your health to the extent it may save your life!

When I pull my little $30 flip phone out in public I feel quite self conscious. I realize I am a dying breed.

Its coming and there is nothing I can do to stop it. I do however have a choice on how I choose to manage the technology in my life, and its time I figured that out

Does anyone else struggle with this? Please do tell me what has worked for you!


Feeling Beautiful?!

Ha, you know those days when you look in the mirror and you feel haggard, washed out, maybe a little scary or even feel a little ugly? For those days I have a special mantra that I repeat to myself. It goes something like this:

G-irl! If you looked in the mirror ten years from now and saw THIS, you would be HAPPY!

I laugh a little to myself and decide to be happy now.

Outward beauty is lauded and worshiped in our society from GQ looking men in retro suits to lithe, photo-shopped women with perfect teeth and skin. Yet paradoxically a focus on outward beauty can lead to an ugly life. Have you ever wondered where true beauty has gone?

Today, my friend, Denise challenged me to ask myself, ‘What makes you FEEL beautiful’ and here are my thoughts.

BEING MYSELF: As long as I have memory I have loved being me. I like who I am. The fact that I am different from others has always been way more exciting than trying to be the same as everyone else. So I feel most beautiful when I am being most ‘me’. Sometimes this is challenging when I feel scared, intimidated or threatened. I am in this life to live it fully and not for the acclaim or praise of the world. When you find your own beauty its a part of every facet of your life, you feel it intimately, radiantly. You don’t suck the lifeblood out of others, you give them energy, life and a gift of your own beauty in the form of love.

TAKING CARE OF THE WHOLE: For me beauty is a holistic experience, that is, its an inside as well as an outside thing. If I’m taking care of my body, feeding it well, exercising it, giving it rest and recreation, the company of others then I know I will feel beautiful. This goes for taking care of my spirit too. As I feed my soul with spiritual things I feel an increase of beauty in my life and I feel and radiate beauty.

LIVE MY TRUTH: Being honest and authentic has a beauty all its own. As I live my life according to my beliefs I feel joy and that joy makes me feel beautiful. I am at peace with myself and those around me. This doesn’t mean I don’t make mistakes, I do, but I try to put things right. I admit my mistakes and try to be an agent of healing in my own life and in the lives of others. Life has no guaranteed happiness but I do believe in the Prince of Peace and that no matter what adverse curves life throws there is a way through and a brighter day will dawn. Living my truth, believing in peace and having hope make me feel beautiful.

UNCONDITIONAL LOVING: When I see others as God sees them and love them as He would, I feel beautiful. When others overlook my faults, see the earnest good intent in my heart and love me unconditionally, I feel beautiful. When God and others give me grace, I feel beautiful. When I can give others grace, forgiveness and acceptance I feel beautiful.

BEING IN NATURE: When I am surrounded by beauty I can’t help but feel beautiful and for me that is being out in nature. My hair can be wind tossed, my face, make-up less, my clothes can be unfashionable yet I feel so one with the beauty around me it permeates every part of me! Maybe that comes from my growing up in beautiful, verdant English countryside or maybe I just love the world around me, green or brown, sunrise or sunset, desert or ocean, valley or mountain top. How can you not feel beautiful when wrapped in so much beauty?!

So here’s a shout out for more ‘true beauty’ in our lives!

Well there you have it, my bottom line on beauty. What’s yours?! ^_^

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