There has been a great tragedy in our neighborhood, we lost a whole family, Mom, Dad, children and Nana. One minute they were full of life, the next they were gone. This has affected so many people but especially their extended families and close friends. Hearts are aching, eyes are wet, sleep is hard to come by, so much emptiness.
Life is fragile for many reasons.
Here are four things I learned from my friend’s viewing.
Lesson number one: I walked by Kelly’s casket. It was her body but it wasn’t Kelly. The same with her children, their bodies lifeless almost manequin-like. It never ceases to amaze me at open casket funeral’s that every time I see the body I get this overwhelming feeling that what I know is true. The body is the empty shell that once housed their spirit, their essential essence, the thing that really makes them who they are. Because day in and day out we see and interact with one another on this physical plane its a stretch for us to realize that who we are isn’t purely physical. The physical is only the outward manifestation of spirit, emotion, thought and personality. All those remain intact and leave the body as one at death. The real life force of a person cannot be snuffed out. There is a far greater, wondrous plan at work. This once again brought peace to my heart even if my mind still reeled at the horror of their tragic deaths. This was lesson number one. They still live, not here but in another realm. They still think and love. They are still the same people we knew here.
Lesson two came to me as I watched the video, the montage of a myriad of photos that passed before our dewy eyes. I stood clinging to my husband. And then it happened, Kelly pulling a goofy face. We all need be goofy in pictures on a regular basis. Why? To bring a burst of laughter and smile to the faces of our loved ones, after we are gone. Kelly also took a ton of pictures. Lesson two, be goofy and take lots of pictures.
Lesson three. Short though there lives were, Kelly and her children shared this immense loves for one another that was almost palpable. Kelly always had a smile for everyone, was a joy and a light. Lesson three, live life with love.
Lesson four. Don’t fret too much about the worldly things. I thought about Kelly today and realized, she didn’t have her cell phone or Facebook, she wasn’t worried about what she was going to wear, or if her house was clean, she wasn’t worried about how much money she had. She was with people who loved her and was looking down on people who loved her who were sorrowing and wanted to comfort them and tell them everything was okay. Lesson four: Write a letter to your loved ones on what you want them to know if you don’t have a chance to say goodbye. Kelly would want us to be happy, remember the good times, live life and celebrate each day. That is what she would want us to do. That is how she would want us to honor her memory and not worry about her. Besides if we really think about it we know what she is doing, she is busy making friends in heaven.